Newsflash: guys don't want to have s*x all the time.
However, even if a guy is not in the mood, he'll go with it if a woman initiates s*x. When a woman initiates, it feels s*xy and different. Usually, the guy feels responsible for initiating s*x. While a woman will sometimes refuse s*x when she's not in the mood, a guy will not initiate s*x if he's not in the mood.
Here are my reasons why:
The Game's On
If a game is important enough, it might actually take our mind off s*x for more than ten minutes. Men are simple creatures, and TV is awfully distracting. So many guys fantasize about having s*x with a woman on top, while peering around her body, wielding a remote. Most of us are not that awesome, so we give up s*x to catch the big game on TV.
Too Many External Stressors
Men and women can actually agree on this one: stress messes with libido. During tough times at work or in my personal life, I'm forced to withdraw (mentally, of course).
When my cat passed away, I didn't think about s*x for a few weeks. I didn't tell the girl I was dating though. "I can't have s*x with you right now because I'm sad about my cat" doesn't seem like such a good excuse.
Performance Anxiety
When I'm drunk, my libido awakens. But I'm also worried about getting it up when I'm drunk. When libido and anxiety go to battle, the anxiety sometimes wins out.
What If Someone Sees (Or Hears) Us?
As an anxious s*x participant, I'm thrown off by anything out of the ordinary. I don't want someone hearing us from an adjacent apartment, or spotting our spontaneous outdoor encounter. I don't sound very fun do I?
M*sturbating Too Often
Men m*sturbate frivolously when we are single. Now, this doesn't change when we are dating, but we do pay more attention to the frequency of m*sturbation sessions.
Frequent m*sturbation is tiring, numbs the libido, and creates performance anxiety. So, when the real thing comes along, we might shy away because we've been doing too much "work" on our own.
What do you think of my reasons, and what reasons would you add to the list? Do guys ever dodge s*x when you're initiating it?
However, even if a guy is not in the mood, he'll go with it if a woman initiates s*x. When a woman initiates, it feels s*xy and different. Usually, the guy feels responsible for initiating s*x. While a woman will sometimes refuse s*x when she's not in the mood, a guy will not initiate s*x if he's not in the mood.
Here are my reasons why:
The Game's On
If a game is important enough, it might actually take our mind off s*x for more than ten minutes. Men are simple creatures, and TV is awfully distracting. So many guys fantasize about having s*x with a woman on top, while peering around her body, wielding a remote. Most of us are not that awesome, so we give up s*x to catch the big game on TV.
Too Many External Stressors
Men and women can actually agree on this one: stress messes with libido. During tough times at work or in my personal life, I'm forced to withdraw (mentally, of course).
When my cat passed away, I didn't think about s*x for a few weeks. I didn't tell the girl I was dating though. "I can't have s*x with you right now because I'm sad about my cat" doesn't seem like such a good excuse.
Performance Anxiety
When I'm drunk, my libido awakens. But I'm also worried about getting it up when I'm drunk. When libido and anxiety go to battle, the anxiety sometimes wins out.
What If Someone Sees (Or Hears) Us?
As an anxious s*x participant, I'm thrown off by anything out of the ordinary. I don't want someone hearing us from an adjacent apartment, or spotting our spontaneous outdoor encounter. I don't sound very fun do I?
M*sturbating Too Often
Men m*sturbate frivolously when we are single. Now, this doesn't change when we are dating, but we do pay more attention to the frequency of m*sturbation sessions.
Frequent m*sturbation is tiring, numbs the libido, and creates performance anxiety. So, when the real thing comes along, we might shy away because we've been doing too much "work" on our own.
What do you think of my reasons, and what reasons would you add to the list? Do guys ever dodge s*x when you're initiating it?
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